August 5, 2005




  • If you are older, you might remember how in  the 80's former First Lady Nancy Reagan used to preach a policy of telling teenagers to "Just say no!" about sex.  At the time, it was highly criticized by many as being unrealistic and unhelpful in the sense that such a policy does noteducate our youth about condoms, STDs etc.

    I guess there really is truth to the old saying, "the more things change, the more they stay the same."  A few months ago, the federal Human and Heath Services Department launched a new website called 4parents.gov and one of the topics is "Abstinence".  According to the website, "Your children need you to guide them in making smart choices about their health and future.  4Parents.gov is a guide to help you and your pre-teen or mid teen discuss important, yet difficult, issues about healthy choices, abstinence, sex and relationships."  The Abstinence page states, Abstinence is, without question, the healthiest choice for adolescents, both physically and emotionally."

    Over 100 groups have requested the site be taken down including theACLU, the National Education Association, gay rights groups and other advocacy groups.  Critics say the site dictates values and does not adequately address the needs of teens who are already sexuallyactive, gay, or sexually abused.  Although the site mentions contraceptives, it seems focused exclusively on scare tactics about"failure rates".  Experts have expressed concern that this will not cause teens to stop having sex, it might only encourage them to have sex without protection (since it doesn't work anyway).  Scare tactics are also sprinkled throughout the website in the form of lots of gloomy statistics for teen mothers on everything from health, education, financial struggles and domestic violence. 



    "Just Say No" has been replaced by the the more new and improved "NICE" plan to refuse sex. I suppose the Heath Department though it was a good acronym because"nice girls" don't have sex?  Ugh.  Anyway, here's the strategy:

    1.  N - Say "NO" not "maybe" or "later". 
    2.  I - Follow with an "I" statement like ... "I am not going to have sex until marriage."
    3.  C - If pressure continues, "Change" the subject ... "Did you see the game on TV last night?"
    4.  E- If the strategies above fail, your teen needs to "Exit".  Thewebsite suggests teens call Mom and Dad right away and use a "codeword" like "Is that dog barking" which means "Come and pick me up right away!.

    Does any one really think this is much different or better than "Just say no!"?

    -- Snowman

    Sources:  "Federal Web site:  Just Say No to Sex", by Kevin Freking, Associated Press, Sacramento Bee,  04.01.05


    P.S. The silly "Just say no" campaign has occasionally inspired a few porn related titles ...



    Just Say No,Elegant Angel, D. Zak Wylde, 2002, featuring Aurora Snow, Ashley Long(anal, dp), Daisy Chain, Katie Morgan, Olivia Saint, and Samantha Sterlying (anal)

    "You know that 'no' sometimes means'yes.' Well, these six little cockteasers want so badly to say 'yes',but every time that word 'no' comes out of their dirty little mouths,my dick gets harder and harder. Especially when Samantha gives in toher first anal scene and loved every second of it. Even Daisy Chains, notorious for doing only girls, gave in to her desire for man meat. So,lube it up and watch these girls give it up!" - Zakk Wylde